Corporal Punishment in BDSM
BDSM play can be perplexing for any number of reasons. Some activities really do push the envelope of believability.
One such activity is corporal punishment. This is where the sub or slave receives actual punishment from the top or dom, master or mistress. This can range from a spanking, to a flogging and caning and with plenty of variations. Sometimes this is called ‘impact play‘ for the obvious reasons.
In my case I am the sub and the Mistress delivers a significant dose of corporal punishment in a pro-Domme session.
Clearly this is all very subjective and of course from my own perspective, at every level.
In this post I’ll talk about some of the issues behind the whole corporal punishment thing from the point of view of the pro-Domme sessions I’ve had for many years.
Role Play and Fantasy
There is a strong element of this in corporal punishment (again from my own perspective) and of course it harks back to the whole kink-fantasy thing.
What role play? For me it is the mistress disciplining the slave because she wants to. She feels like taking off her belt than giving him a hard thrashing with it. Then she uses…. and you get the idea.
Of course there are so many other scenarios; the teacher and student, the boss and bad staff member, the trip to the woodshed, and the list goes on.
Behind all that is the acceptance of corporal punishment. To the logical among us it will seem strange that it is sought out and required.
What Drives The Need?
At the primitive level, what drives the need for corporal punishment is that it makes us feel better. This is inescapable. Why do it otherwise?
Do some googling, you will find many reasons. One I found disturbing talked about the need to not feel loved, or to not have to love, and used punishment as a substitute for love. It may be true for some, but I suspect it is just one aspect of the whole topic and hopefully applicable to few.
Drawing on my own experience and from speaking with Mistresses and cruising the internet for many years, there are many reasons, just like for any human behavior. Also, there will probably not be one single reason – there will be a mix.
Masochism
This is clearly the simple and easy excuse for embracing corporal punishment. It feels good to say that and feel like you have discovered the reason. It is comforting to say that the masochist seeks the pain, seeks the feeling of the pain, and the pain is all there is.
I think this is totally ignoring the underlying reasons for many people, myself included.
It is too easy to just stop there, to just say that the pain is the end unto itself. For many like me there will be deeper underlying reasons.
For me, pain is just an ‘effect’ that comes with everything else. I accept it because it is part of the whole thing.
Need To Escape
I feel this so strongly. When I’m undergoing heavy corporal punishment nothing else exists. Time almost stops, all I hear, all I see is about the moment as I absorb the punishment.
Each stroke of the belt, the cane, the strap all transport me from the here and now. There is no other place.
My comment is, ‘it is impossible to be thinking of anything else when you’re getting heavy corporal punishment.’ It really does focus the mind.
What causes this ‘escape’ – it is simple. The pain captivates and controls. It fills and takes control. My whole body shudders under the mistresses punishment.
Depression - Anxiety - The Need To Feel
Corporal punishment can be like shock therapy. It makes the body release endorphins in the brain and nervous system giving the feeling of a high, but that’s not all. There is the visual element, the fetish, the whole scene thing happening that it becomes engrossing.
All of a sudden, there is nothing else in the universe. All of a sudden your cares a are gone, your anxieties forgotten and the corporal is all there is.
Depression is a horrid thing, something that devastates lives and takes away the pleasure of living.
Release Of Control
If you’re not in control, then nothing is your fault. You are not accountable for anything, you are not guilty. You have no reason to feel any kind of anxiety, any kind of anything.
The Need To Be Punished
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The Fantasy
Re-Live School Days
This is a common thing.
For The Theater
If you are the person who is doing something for everyone, all the time, having your own private theater is an absolute indulgence, a pleasure.
What are your deepest desires, the things you’ve never told anyone?
Release From Trauma
Release From Trauma
Historical Abuse
I find this disturbing. From my contact with mistresses I’ve seen both sides of this.
For those receiving corporal punishment some people who have had abusive upbringing sometimes find themselves drawn to more abuse. Corporal punishment gives them a reason to atone, to be the victim, to say sorry for whatever in their lives they feel a need to apologize for.
Fetish and Fantasy
This is strong for me and it pervades many of the topics here.
I find the leather mistress giving corporal punishment irresistible and I am sure I’m not alone. It is all a matter of perspective, again.
The Sexual Element
There are multiple elements of sexuality in corporal punishment. IT all depends on the players and in my opinion, on the severity. Of course, the scene matters,
This is not an element for me. I find after heavy corporal punishment that my desire for sex, for release or orgasm, is about nil.
Spanking in a sexual context is vastly different. This is corporal punishment of course, but generally it will be delivered much more lightly.