There is no doubt in my mind that a hand strapping or tawsing is one of the most personal and powerful experiences in BDSM between a Mistress (or master) and slave.
I have updated my popular and long post on this “how to give a hand tawsing” – and added some links to videos.
Some notes on this topic follow.
Yes, hand strapping is something I get in my BDSM sessions from a Mistress (dominatrix) and have done so for nearing 20 years now. The whole topic of hand strapping and tawsing is deeply evocative for me.
What Is Hand Strapping And Tawsing
In its simplest form, a Mistress stands in front (or to the side) of a slave.
Slave is told to raise his hands, palm up, often with one hand supporting the other, often at full stretch.
The Mistress then uses a leather strap or a tawse (a strap split for half it’s length once or more times) and brings that down on the palm of the slave.
Slave is told to swap hands, or to keep that same hand up – for more strokes.
Here is a short clip of a Mistress using her tawse.
Why On Earth Is This A Thing?
It is human nature to be contrary and a victim to our emotions and special needs. Hand strapping and tawsing is indeed one of this times and things.
I’m drawn to it, I’m pushed away from it, I need it, I wonder at myself how on earth I could need it. When I’m getting my hands strapped I feel the pain and struggle to accept it yet when it is over I regret it has finished and look forward to it again. I feel that special internal quiver when I think about it.
Hand strapping works at many levels;
- It forces submission, probably more than other BDSM activities. You are controlled, deeply submissive, when a Mistress is in front of you using her strap.
- I feel the ‘exposure’ of hand strapping. My BDSM is extrememly private to me, yet here I am facing someone who is dressed in fetish and going to use a strap on me. That is impossible to ignore.
- You must face your punisher. You must look at her standing there with her strap or tawse and know what’s coming. That seldom happens in BDSM.
- Facing the Mistress as she is using her strap focuses the mind, there is no hiding, no subterfuge, no doubt about what is happening. It takes courage and strength to hold up the hand for the next stroke when the last was so painful, the hands are red and shaking, and you know the next one will be hard.
- If there is a leather fetish happening, or a need for humiliation, or a need to be dominated, then hand strapping and tawsing is one of the more powerful BDSM activities.
- It can be deeply embarrassing. Imagine standing, or kneeling, maybe stripped naked and in front of a woman Dominatrix or Mistress. She commands, she controls and she uses a strap on you and you have to take it.
- It can be intensely painful. The hands are generally soft and quite sensitive, yet you must offer them up to a painful strapping. That can be bad enbough, but a heavy leather tawse can be devastatingly painful.
- In days gone by a strap was used in schools for discipline. Hand strapping can take us back to those times.
How Hand Strapping Fits Into BDSM Sessions
I can only speak of my own sessions which are based around leather fetish, bondage and corporal punishment. I recognize these activities are only a small part of the full gamut of BDSM.
In my sessions, they proceed like this.
- At the start of the session I’m naked, kneeling and in belt bondage. Mistress enters, then gives me a hand strapping. She’ll use a number of straps, belts and then the tawse.
- Then Mistres clips my wist cuffs to a suspension bar and lifts me up onto my feet. I’m in the middle of the dungeon and facing a mirror so I can watch Mistress.
- This section of the session starts off with Mistress taking off a belt, folding it over then strapping my bum rather hard. My warmup is a belt strapping. She’ll then swap belts for others, each time taking a belt off then putting another on.
- Then she’ll use maybe a tawse on my butt, a prison strap and even a cane.
- As I am gagged and watching Mistress in the mirror I find it a particularly chathartic experience, enduring, watching Mistress and taking the corporal punishment she is giving me.
- After this I’m taken down from suspension, back on my knees and Mistress again straps my hands and uses the tawse as well.
- Then I’m usually bent over a whipping bench, strapped down, and Mistress repeats the belting, strapping, and caning.
- This is now getting close to the end of the session and at this time Mistress uses the cane, or canes, harder, maybe after another hard prison strapping. After all the belting and strapping to my bum it is losing a bit of sensation so the cane is plied harder and really gets in deeply.
- While I’m on the bench a few times Mistress, will release my hands. I’ll have to hold them out and Mistress with give me another hand strapping. It may only be a few strokes, or may be her belt, or a tawse or a simple leather strap. Or it may be six of the best.
- After coming off the bench it is back on my knees for afinal hand strapping. This one usually is at the absolute limit of my endurance and of course Mistress uses the extr apainful XH tawse leaving me devastated.
With that the session is over and I feel particularly ‘spent’ and satiated. No, there is no orgasm or hand relief, I find that a heavy corporal session is just too engrossing for that to happen.
I do feel like I’m a new person. Relaxed and almost spaced out.
I’m in the dungeon which is a place I identify with quite strongly, I’ve had a lot of corporal, I’m floating and deeply unto another mind-space. My butt is red striped and maybe bleeding from overlapping cane strokes and my hands are really quite red.
And right at that moment I am disappointed it’s over. I usually wish I could stay in the dungeon for another hour, in bondage strapped up tight and gagged as the feelings of deep internal satisfaction infuse me. Maybe one day I will do that. Maybe.