BDSM Wants Versus Needs

We Only Do What We Want To Do

Sure, we live life this way. We make easy decisions based on our experience, our feelings at the moment, our common sense and above all else, our emotions.

Wants are very powerful. We follow them. We want something, we go out of our way to get it.

Needs are less tangible

We go to the dentist, we are told to floss more.

We go to the doctor and are told to lose weight, eat better and get more exercise..

We know we need to do these things, but do we? Flossing takes time, and the doctors suggestion bring self denial and effort. We do’t want that. Which one wins out?

But we know we need to do these things. It’s obvious to us., our logical self knows this.

BDSM Wants Versus Needs

BDSM throws in an extra consideration, an extra dimension into this struggle between needs and wants.