Spanking Fetish - Odd Choice Of Words
I think the terms ‘spanko fetish’ and ‘spanko fetish’ are a little odd. I also think this is 100% my biases talking – and the terms are probably quite relevant (ie good).
Why?
Spanking feels like it is a downgrade of what I indulge in. It sounds like an over the knee “OTK” type punishment where the bare hand is used to spank the bared butt. I’ve had one of these, on my first session, and I found it a bit average. I wanted more. It didn’t push my other fetish points hard enough.
Spanking does work well though. I’ll admit that and absolutely. Bent over the knee and receiving a hard spanking really can be challenging. A hair brush or short paddle, strap, tawse or cane used for a spanking like this would work well also.
I’ll also admit that the contact of my hips and crutch against a mistresses legs as she spanks me hard does have an appeal. That would be a level of intimacy I don’t get in the traditional corporal sessions I have. The thought of leaving some ‘evidence’ of my excitment to be over her knees is also a little exciting along with cringe-embarrassing. I know I’d dribble a bit.
Why do Spanko Fetish / Spanking Fetish terms work?
My take on this, as an older person, is that the words ‘regularize’ or ‘modernize’ the practice.
The words are easily understood and easily related to. They explain themselves.
Spanking? Sure, that is simple and easy to understand and not greatly challenging. It puts the whole thing in context.
Fetish? That has become almost mundane now, we are far more culturally allowed to have a fetish for things like leather or latex or fast cars. Whatever. Fetish is not that challenging.
Bolt the two together into ‘Spanking Fetish’ and it feels sort of acceptable.
I can feel a sexual element to this also. I can feel that ‘lets have a spanking before sex’ is a kind of hidden agenda in the spanko fetish terms. It does sound a bit exciting!
Respect - Jillian Keenan
Visit her website, and Jillian Keenan deserves respect. Seriously.
She has come out publicly and put her face on her fetish for spanking.
On her youtube channel she has plenty of videos of herself dealing with the whole spanking thing.
Brilliant.
Where Is Corporal Punishment in this?
By contrast ‘Corporal Punishment’ really has a different feeling. It talks to something more severe and less sexual.
Corporal punishment has a different ethic to it – and summons up different emotions. Am I being punished for a mistake or transgression? Is my fantasy to be in a dungeon then punished by the leather clad mistress just becase she can? Is my fantasy to be a slave being punished by the mistress? Or all of them (yes please).
Or at least that is the way of it for me.
Maybe ‘corporal punishment’ is the dictionary definition of being struck in some manner. ‘Spanking Fetish’ regularizes this into an activity that is more play-erotic and less formal or judicial.