BDSM Session Preparation

I don’t just wake up one morning and say, “Right! I think I’ll have a BDSM session this afternoon.” No. First of all the mistress I see is only available some days. Next, I do need some time to prepare, to get into the head space and also, quite frankly, to enjoy the anticipation.

Booking.

This time I made the booking through the mistress I’ve been seeing. She is the ‘fun professional’ kind, empathetic and gives really good sessions. We exchanged a pair of emails and the date and time was set.

With my 15 years of experience and 20 different mistresses, she is right at the top for the kind of session I like.

Gear Checkout

I have a lot of gear, many straps, belts, tawse etc. These have not been used in quite a while so a check over felt like a good idea.

I’m damn glad I did as there was significant mold on a few of them. I cleaned it off and then lay them all out to dry. After that a check then a light application of leather dressing finished it off. They were fine.

What Does It Feel Like?

I usually ask for heavy corporal, lots of belt, strap, tawse, prison strap then the cane. I get quite a bit of hand strapping and tawsing; having mistress stand in front of me and strapping my hands hits all the fetish high points.

The session lasts for an hour and most of that is the mistress giving me heavy corporal.

At the end of a session I usually have a butt that looks awful. It’, badly bruised and often bleeding a little here and there, needing antiseptic cream. Just in case.

So the sessions are intense.

With the passage of time without a session, without any corporal, how will it feel? Am I able to take what mistress gives? Should I still ask for ‘heavy’ and of course can I take it? This questions with variations repeated themselves in my brain.

So Am I Corporal Capable?

So, the thing is, it has been about 12 months since my last session and I know my tolerance for corporal will be way down.

I did a test when I was cleaning my gear. I used my XH London Tanners 3 tail tawse to gave myself 3 strokes to each hand. Damnation they hurt like the very devil.

At that moment I had no idea how I was going to be able to take what mistress would give me. She uses a few straps on my hands, then this tawse after. Unless you’ve experienced an XH tawse, you really don’t know how painful it can be.

General Fitness

Now this is a huge issue. I’ve not done any exercise as a result of the lock down and I’m so wasted when I do anything.

A full on BDSM session is going to be an issue. I want it to be excellent, challenging, to be extended but also to be able to accept what is given at every level.

Goal Setting And Training

So I set a goal. Not your everyday goal, but a BDSM session fitness goal I suppose you could say.

Every day from then to the session I resolved to do at least one hour’s exercise. It could be any of walking, gym, gardening. Or all of them.

Plus, if I had the privacy, I’d try to give myself corporal, as much as I could, to try and get ready for mistress and her strong right arm.

I’ve tried self-corporal in the past and found it quite a poor experience. I could never give it as hard as the mistress did and also chickened out far too early. One or two strokes of a tawse self-delivered to the palms had always been my limit.

In truth, it had always felt a little silly. Me tawsing myself? Why on earth would I do that? The mental image of me doing that to myself was scarring.

But now I had a reason, a goal.

10 days out – So for my 1st day of preparation I did 3 hours exercise and I was absolutely exhausted. I felt almost faint at one time – but I feel so good. I’d started.

9 days out – Nothing. Work got in the way with staff meetings and a work night out with clients.

8 days out – I gave myself three strokes of the XH tawse to each hand every few hours when able. This challenged me at every level.

I did that six times and it was painful and difficult. At the same time I gave myself sets of a dozen from the XH tawse onto the bare butt. The first set was awful. It got easier as the day wore on. I did an hour and a half exercise. I saw red marks on my butt two hours later so there was some effect happening.

I think both the hand strapping and the butt strapping got easier as the day wore on. I’m interested to see how tomorrow fares.

7 days out. I only ended up giving myself two sets of six of the tawse to the hands and the butt. Both sets of the tawse really hurt though making me wonder if it was my technique improving or was I not getting used to the corporal at all. It was a busy day without privacy. Then I did an hours exercise in the evening. It was over all a good day.

6 Days out. Early in the day I gave my self six lighter strokes to each hand, and a full dozen fairly hard to the butt. Six in a row to each hand is so challenging. I couldn’t have done that a few days ago, even with lighter strokes. They all really got in, stinging a lot. Sitting  with a blazing butt and warm tingling hands as I typed this was rather pleasing.

At the end of day, I had a grueling hour and a half exercise in the evening and felt great about it.

During the day I gave myself a total of 4 sets of six to each hand and a dozen to the butt. I found it challenging at every level. The butt tawsing really does start to burn after a little while.

I’m noticing that the way I hold the tawse and then deliver it has both changed and improved. It really does give a sharp bite.

Self honesty also came into play. If the stroke does not land properly I must tell myself to repeat it. That’s not easy when it might land lower on the thighs than it should have, hurts, then I have to repeat it higher up. Same to the hands, it might still hurt and must be repeated.

5 Days Out. My butt is a bit bruised from yesterday and I’ve got some muscle soreness from the exercise. Should I have a day off?

NO! As a trial,  I just gave myself a dozen to the butt which I took better, then six to each hand which still hurt like hell. The hands are going to be a problem on the day. I can see that. Both are tingling as I write this.

During the day I gave myself another five sets of this; six to each hand and a dozen to the butt. All in all, it was quite effective as I could feel the burn all day.

I got in an hour and a half of exercise leaving me sweaty and gasping at one time. I have to have a shower after that.

4 Days out. Friday. I gave myself the hardest strapping of all this day, but very little exercise.

For the strapping I gave myself six sets of six to each hand, 4 sets off a dozen to the butt, then two sets of two dozen to the butt. The thing is, I gave the butt strokes a lot harder making myself gasp. That XH tawse really does sting like the devil against the bared and bent botty.

3 Days out. Some exercise, not a lot as I had quite a bit of muscle soreness.

No tawsing either. I think Friday I must have overdone the tawsing as all day my butt was stinging slightly, particularly lower down on the tops of my thighs. I think for once I might be building the intensity to something approaching a mild to medium session.

2 Days out. Sunday.

I’m thinking I should ‘go heavy’ or at least as heavy as I can. We’ll see.

I’m thinking this might be my last training day so I should make the most of it.

I didn’t give myself any corporal and the reason was my butt was still stinging. I wanted a ‘clean slate’ for mistress so presenting with a stinging and possibly bruised butt sounded less than clever.

The day before.

Same again, no corporal and same again, I can still feel it in my butt. That XH tawse really gets in, particularly low down on the tops of my thighs and where it has wrapped a little.