I’ve seen many mistresses in my time. A valid question is, “Why have you seen 20 Mistresses and not settled on one or two?”
Well the reasons are quite simple and instructive.
Some I’ve had a falling out with, some have left the scene, one died, some were just not for me.
Here are some anecdotes.
Bust Up
My first Mistress and I became quite friendly, not intimate (get that out of your head), but we did enjoy each others’ company outside of a session. We could talk to each other and had a similar world view, shared interests and a shared similar sense of humor. Over that time I indulged myself with her, sending her bigger and bigger emails about my problems and not being much of a friend back to her. Perhaps I abused our friendship.
Our friendship ended when she sent me a stinker of an email that left me in no doubt that she wanted nothing more to do with me. It was the most brutally rude and deliberately hurtful email it was possible to receive. To my discredit I tried to contact her a few years later but she thankfully ignored that stupid advance of mine.
Then some years later and rather amusingly, she started working at the establishment I was going to. She was even scheduled onto the same and only day that the Mistress I visited worked. Unfortunately the Mistress I was seeing only worked one day of the week otherwise I would have changed my visits. Of course the inevitable happened when I was leaving the dungeon after a very pleasant session, eye contact between me and my first Mistress was made and words were not spoken. Email was not exchanged. She did look good in the skin tight rubber cat suit though.
Leaving The Scene
Quite a few Mistresses left the scene, some for other employment, one left the city for a warmer climate, some because the establishment I visited closed.
One left to another state which had more liberal sex worker laws. She felt like her life was made too difficult to remain.
Breast Cancer
One Mistress died. She was gorgeous, an ex-model with peaches and cream complexion, very tall and slim, lovely to talk with and she was excellent in a session.
She loved the whole corporal and bondage theme and seemed to be a natural at the whole thing enjoying the role-play of a strict Mistress disciplining a slave. Most of all, sessions with her whilst being nicely intense and ‘forceful’ were still fun.
I was extremely upset when she died after a protracted battle with cancer. I learned later that many of her clients attended the funeral and I wish I had done that. I assumed, wrongly, that it wasn’t the accepted thing.
Another Bust Up
I had a falling out with another Mistress I had nine sessions with.
She was very tall and slim and athletic, another ex fashion model. She really loved heavy corporal to the extent it could not be faked. She was really into it.
On our second session she said she’d had a little upper body stiffness and muscle pain after the first session but she’d been working out.
My goodness, she loved my implements so much so I even had a copy of a favorite strap of mine she liked, made specially for her by a saddler. It was the off billet strap, the ‘prince of straps’ as I commented to another mistress recently.
She said she used it on some other clients who squealed which I believe as it is a very severe implement if used with any force (which she would have).
Anyway, she had an enormous fight with the establishment I was going to. I didn’t ask for details but she was absolutely furious and insisted I have nothing to do with that place again. She said it was unprofessional and not a nice place. Over the ensuing weeks my needs grew and grew as they do; the longer without a session the more they grow.
We exchanged email, she wasn’t able to find another dungeon to work at then she exploded in rage when I told her I was going to see someone else. She then moved to another city then left the country to work in Europe.
No Idea Why I Saw Her Again
One Mistress I saw three times and in hindsight I don’t know why. She was nice enough as a person and the corporal was OK and the session was OK but she was plainly a bit out of her depth.
On talking with her it came out she’d been abused as a child, then abused by partners, then had problems in her life.
She said she was returning to university and working three jobs; waiting on tables, as a cleaner, as a dominatrix. One day she just left and never came back. I didn’t have a fight with her, she just left.
A Broken Rib
As mentioned previously, i broke a rib on a session once. It was in a dungeon I didn’t like and the mistress and I just seemed to not really connect.
I share the blame for the broken rib and also, for accepting the dungeon that was not my preference.
I never saw this mistress again. Maybe I should have given her a second chance.
Almost But Not Quite Right For Me
One Mistress worked out of a large inner city brothel. The dungeon is quite small and I found it had too much equipment for the space. She was very good and the only Mistress to offer me hand relief. When I declined she said, “Should be more like you.” I found the session with her to be somewhat lack luster. There wasn’t a connection.
The other thing is I thought she wasted time in the session. It just didn’t seem to flow. Next, she was super sure of her self, almost arrogantly sure and that rankled. I never went back again. She is quite prominent in the industry.
There were a few Mistresses like this. The gut-feel just didn’t work.
The Princess
One mistress was quite young and she really did have some personality issues. I suspected at the time she’d been told how beautiful she was one too many times, and that affected her attitude, badly.
The session was just plain average. She was not really into it and I felt she would have rather have been checking her mobile phone for messages or whatever.
The thing that absolutely stopped me from ever wanting another session with her was the comment, ‘If I have to sweat, you pay me cash.’ A sweet young thing!
Any Conclusion?
So those are the reasons. Of the ones where they were just not for me, maybe half of them were because I didn’t read their profiles properly.
The remainder are the luck of the draw. Some mistresses I feel an immediate connection with and we have multiple to many sessions. I think there have been about 3 mistresses I’ve had 8 or 9 sessions with then they’ve left the industry.
