How Do you know BDSM is For You

At about age 14 I tried self bondage, I have no idea why. It just sort of happened. And I liked it. A lot.

Over the years this became a regular thing. Tying myself up with belts became the illicit pleasure I could indulge in and get the release and gratification I wanted. At that time the term BDSM did not exist.

Why belts? It just is. I love them, the sensation, the visual, the whole thing. Rope, chain, anything else just does not do it. Again, this is part of me. Not learned. Not forced on me. It just happened.

When I had my first proper pro-Domme session in a dungeon corporal punishment happened and I loved it. The two sensations, the bondage and the corporal combined to produce an extremely strong response.

So, for me, it started with self bondage and then corporal was added.

I’ve looked at the internet, seen the huge range of other things that BDSM has to offer and for me, but I’ve stuck with the corporal and bondage.

There Are So Many Options

I remember in one session, the mistress had a huge jug of water she was drinking. She finished it then put it outside the dungeon on the corridor floor. A short while later there was a tap on the door. She got a fresh jug of water and was drinking that one. I asked her later about it – she said she had a golden shower session next. I wasn’t tempted.

Another mistress offered me some strap-on play. She even showed me her harness. I liked the leather harness, the whole pegging thing didn’t do it for me.

So, from the above, it is clear I have my own BDSM needs, desires, call them what you want – have been static. They haven’t morphed into other things.

I Was Born With This

The mistress I’m currently seeing was adamant that I was born this way, as are all her clients.

I can feel that within myself, it just is. I can’t explain it. Same as I can’t explain the other hobbies I enjoy – they just are.

What About you?

Do you think about some BDSM activity occasionally?

Is there some fantasy involving BDSM?

Have you looked it up on the internet, maybe looked for some porn featuring your special thing?

If any of those are true, then my guess is you will be doing some BDSM before too long.

Why I Went To a Pro-Domme

A few reasons. I suppose I never thought of going to a play party or joining a forum or group. I had seen some porn with mistresses and bondage and corporal and it looked hugely appealing. Also, well, it was quite a long time ago and the internet was in its infancy. Things like ‘Fetlife’ and all the other sites and forums didn’t exist then.

Next, I wanted to try with someone who was an expert, would not want any kind of emotional attachment, was in a private setting, and I could confide in.

Privacy was and still is a big thing. What happens in the dungeon stays in the dungeon.

Would I do it that way again? Yes I would. Sure there was a cost, but she met all my requirements and it ended well.

Would I recommend people thinking about trying some BDSM try a pro-Domm type session? Yes I would. You get to talk to someone totally non judgemental, professional, experienced and able to give you advice, options, and expose you to some things you might not have thought of.

Maybe the depth of play will guide you. For me the bondage and corporal are pretty full on. I want the undivided attention of the mistress, the private theater to focus on me. Then go home. If you are looking for a life-style type thing, for a life partner, for a dom or master or a 24/7 type arrangement, then clearly the pro-dom sessions are not for you.

Maybe you want a night out and some BDSM to be talked about, maybe watch some public play, maybe meet people into the scene? Again the pro-dom thing is not for you – join a forum, do some events. There are plenty around.

Bucket List To Try BDSM

The mistress I’m seeing said she recently had a client come to just try BDSM as it was on his bucket list. She smiled, nodded, then said he’d be back.

She doubted it was a bucket list thing – he must have had it inside him to try.