BDSM and Medical Profesionals

Dealing With Medical Professionals

There are a few golden rules with medical professionals.

The first rule is don’t waste time. They want to know what the problem is and how best to help you. Trying some stupid long winded B.S. is not going to work. They’ve already seen it all. If you can shock or challenge them, then they are new to the profession.

The second rule is about abuse. They have a duty of care to advise police or similar (depending on jurisdiction) if they think you have been abused by a partner. If you have not, then tell them! Be open and up front honest. That is the only and best way forward.

The third rule is that they want to make you better. They really don’t have time to deal with silly concerns about what you are doing. Tell them, “I was accidentally injured in my BDSM…..” and that is plenty. They will probably just move on to doing what you need to fix you up. Doing anyting less than this will annoy them – they want to make you better.

For my own doctor, I have not told him. It is not going to happen unless some reason arises that I can’t foresee. If I have to visit my doctor and a physical exam is required, I schedule my play to suit. It just doesn’t feel right.

For my psychologist experiences, I only reveal my BDSM side if I intend to continue to see them. Some have not been suitable for me so I’ve had only one counseling session then backed out and not revealed. For others I have. I strongly recommend you do when you are comfortable with them.

One Anecdote

My hairdresswer was telling me about a friend of hers who goes in for extremely heavy corporal sessions every few months. One time he broke a few ribs (how? I didn’t want to ask) and had to go to E.R. She went as support person. One of the nurses took her aside and said “dear, I do this in my spare time also, but you went a bit far.” She had to explain it wasn’t her – and that was all good. No problem.